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T O P I C R E V I E WLexusVirgoMy first love was at 13. I met him and I thought we were sooulmates( stupid at that age I know lol) . I really liked him ( I will use the name Jim) I really liked Jim a lot he even gave me my first kiss til this other girl moved in to the apartments ( I'll call her missy) missy looked like Britney Spears and I was going through an awkward ugly stage. Needless to say Jim fell,for missy and started to be very mean so much so I would cry myself asleep at night.. It was a heartbreaking time when I was only 14. Jim had a stellium of mercury, sun and venus in gemini on top of that he had a moon in Pisces. I did him and Missy's synastry once she had mars in gemini which I feel is why he was drawn to her. Because I do not have any gemini planets. So what are your guises unrequited love stories?Jo BHave you got 10 hours? Doux RêveI don't really have unrequited love stories per se, but a bunch of "we liked each other but could never get together" stuff.One in particular had an immense impact on me. I was in high-school and that guy started paying attention to me and teasing me, and one day even confessed his feelings in a rather clumsy way, during class. I thought he was playing, because he had that kind of personality. Or that it was a bet. Basically I didn't believe he really liked me because we had barely talked to each other and besides, I thought he was very good-looking while I was plain as fu** (in my view).Fast forward a few months later, I develop strong feelings for him but am too shy/insecure to ever initiate any kind of contact. We remain distant but seem to share a kind of 'hidden' connection that only we knew was there.The next year he changes class and we barely see each other.Then he moved cities and I confessed my feelings to him by text (yes, bad idea) and he never replied to that.We once had a phone conversation where I wanted to talk things out but he denied ever liking me 'in that way', though I could tell he was lying to push me away.Anyway, that was the end of it; I'd never suffered so much in my life. It was a wonderful and tragic experience, something that, I believe, happens once in a lifetime, when you're young and feelings are so intense it makes you go mad.I'd dream of him occasionally, even 4 years after it was all over. The last dream I had with him was us acknowledging we had feelings for each other and parting ways. In my dream I told him he'll always be special and that I'll always love him. We smiled and hugged and parted ways.It was very cathartic, with a tinge of bittersweet melancholy. LexusVirgoThat sucks four does anyone else have any stories?MineAgain quote:Originally posted by LexusVirgo:That sucks four does anyone else have any stories?I do. I'll probably talk about it one last time to close this chapter so to speak. It will be therapeutic!I'll probably post the story later today.LexusVirgoK mine again, I read writing it down can be theurepuetic.MineAgain[.]LexusVirgoHe sounds like an overly confident jerk.. I hope you and your Leo work out. He sounds so shallow for Pisces.MineAgain quote:Originally posted by LexusVirgo:He sounds like an overly confident jerk.. I hope you and your Leo work out. He sounds so shallow for Pisces.Thank you for reading my story Lexus!The worst part is that I sent him a birthday greetings text a few days after our last date and he didn't even have the decency to send me a "thank you" text. He ignored it. He didn't deserve all the attention I gave him. That most definitely was a lesson learned. Sometimes unrequited love is meant to bring your weaknesses to the surface so you can heal them. It was a painful but healing experience. I needed to learn how to "love" myself more than I would love any man, so that I can bring my self-worth to the level where I can stand up for myself and kick to the curb any man who dares to disrespect me the way he did. I acted like a doormat, but at least, it brought my self-worth to the point where I needed it to be!LexusVirgoI feel the same way about my Gemini from long ago I was only 14 though but I learned to not worship a guy and give him all my attention.RandallJerks suck.LexusVirgoyes they doRandallYeppers!OdetteI'm more inclined to believe in unrequited lust.Although I guess I could add some other things to the unrequited list... e.g. unrequited like, unrequited infatuation, unrequited delusional projection of stuff onto a person you barely know... But love? Naw... It's rarely actual love, when it is unrequited. I'm not saying it never happens, but it's uncommon.The most typical scenario is one where the infatuated person doesn't actually *know* the loved one very well at all. It's like falling in love with an illusion, or with your own imagination. I believe Neptune plays a significant role in these relationships. ikjaTo be honest, as a person with Venus opposite Pluto natally.... I've got enough unrequited love stories to make a small village in Africa cry. With that said, I would argue that quite a few of my unrequited love stories have arisen because during my younger years, I had many many many many complexes that I projected onto the receipients of my affection and it made me undesirable. I'll be honest. There have been two major instances of unrequited love for me. Funnily enough, they both involved people from the same ethnic background and I have known them both for many many years. One has a longterm girlfriend now, and the other is still single; but somehow thinks he is above treating me with respect. Both I've known since about 15, I'm 25 now. Given that this is not a 'This is Your Life' thread, I'll summarise the details of one.I met him properly when I was 15 at a public rave (party). He was a friend of one of my friends at the time. During the party, he got robbed by a group of lads and was punched too. Obviously, this hurt his ego/pride, but being the type of Aries Moon that I am, I tried to make him laugh and feel better. He appreciated this and when we were going home, I asked for his number to check up on him and make sure he was ok. We ended up building a really good relationship, and I developed feelings for him. It wasn't helped by the fact that a number of my school friends soon found out who he was and started to build relations with him. I was jealous, because I felt like I had worked for the relationship. Invested time and got to know him properly while everyone else just joined in without doing anything! Eventually, I told him how I felt in a drunken state and he said that we were really good friends and that was it. Obviously I was devastated, but he still wanted to continue the friendship. We used to meet up etc. and literally get on sooooooooooo well. We liked the same music and we were both rather witty. His love for music and my love of dance really bonded us together. He was literally my best male friend and I was his.As the years progressed he met one of my friends and at the time, I encouraged him to date her because I didn't realise that things would change. I also didn't realise that I would be jealous. Basically, both things became apparent and we stopped being ok with each other. I went off to university and during those three years, we exchanged messages to the effect of 'I love you and miss you.' He broke up with his girlfriend, by this time my ex friend and things were ok.Then I sabotaged myself by telling him that I liked him again, but then listing all of my concerns which were insecurities tbh (which obviously made him concerned) and then I panicked and things went downhill again. Since then, there have been many reconciliations and many fallouts. There have also been mixed message statements from him like 'I don't want to ruin our friendship' and his constant interest in my love life whenever we do speak - it's odd.The type of person he is now... he is someone who appears to be able to live without me. He talks to all of these typically attractive girls and I just find him disloyal and fickle. It is sad that we never worked out, but I can see where my temperament and his hesitation ruined things.I don't know if he ever had feelings for me genuinely, but he definitely made me feel like he didn't - even if it was just a cover up. Definitely an annoying situation and one that I've learned over the years to avoid in so many ways in the future.LexusVirgoIkja, I know how you feel I have Venus square Pluto in my natal unrequited love is a theme.Sounds to me though that you friend really does love you a lot he's been friends with you for ten years.. Maybe he just needs to get his head out of the sand and realize you always been there for him.Randall quote:Originally posted by LexusVirgo:Ikja, I know how you feel I have Venus square Pluto in my natal unrequited love is a theme.Sounds to me though that you friend really does love you a lot he's been friends with you for ten years.. Maybe he just needs to get his head out of the sand and realize you always been there for him.LexusVirgoBumpSikandaI think I just go for the wrong type of man. A man that if I'm honest with myself, deep inside I KNOW he wouldn't make me happy if we were to be together. I haven't suffered that much in love though. In fact I wish I had had more love interests for the experience, but I simply never paid that much attention to it when I was a student. My first crush happened when I was around 8 or 9. Seriously. And I though he would be the ideal husband, I could totally picture it. However, I was a shy girl, with not many social skills and he was intelligent, flamboyant and extrovert. He couldn't go unnoticed everywhere he went so he naturally caught my attention. He seemed interested as well, but nothing ever happened for four years that we were together at school (not even a kiss). I was too shy to know how to handle the situation. However, for years he remained in me as a platonic love and in a positive light. Somehow he had been a good influence in my life, because he helped me be more self-confident.However I've seen him recently. He has changed so much! Trying to love him now is like loving almost a different person. He still has the spark the that got me attracted to him, but I see more of his true nature now than before when I was infatuated. And now for my second love interest, and this one wasn't as happy as the other. This is the angsty love that many teenagers go through (but I was older than a teenager when it happened). If I had to describe what it felt like, I would say it was a strongly karmic connection. In some ways it was good, when he was understanding because no other man had cared yet. Still we couldn't be together due to our situation (mainly his), but I think/I know it wouldn't really have worked if things had been different. I can't remain friends with this person, though I will always love him deeply. He taught me a lesson: that I should stand up for myself no matter what. Dancing MaenadI have a bunch..
One in particular had an immense impact on me. I was in high-school and that guy started paying attention to me and teasing me, and one day even confessed his feelings in a rather clumsy way, during class. I thought he was playing, because he had that kind of personality. Or that it was a bet. Basically I didn't believe he really liked me because we had barely talked to each other and besides, I thought he was very good-looking while I was plain as fu** (in my view).
Fast forward a few months later, I develop strong feelings for him but am too shy/insecure to ever initiate any kind of contact. We remain distant but seem to share a kind of 'hidden' connection that only we knew was there.The next year he changes class and we barely see each other.
Then he moved cities and I confessed my feelings to him by text (yes, bad idea) and he never replied to that.
We once had a phone conversation where I wanted to talk things out but he denied ever liking me 'in that way', though I could tell he was lying to push me away.
Anyway, that was the end of it; I'd never suffered so much in my life. It was a wonderful and tragic experience, something that, I believe, happens once in a lifetime, when you're young and feelings are so intense it makes you go mad.
I'd dream of him occasionally, even 4 years after it was all over. The last dream I had with him was us acknowledging we had feelings for each other and parting ways. In my dream I told him he'll always be special and that I'll always love him. We smiled and hugged and parted ways.It was very cathartic, with a tinge of bittersweet melancholy.
quote:Originally posted by LexusVirgo:That sucks four does anyone else have any stories?
I do. I'll probably talk about it one last time to close this chapter so to speak. It will be therapeutic!
I'll probably post the story later today.
quote:Originally posted by LexusVirgo:He sounds like an overly confident jerk.. I hope you and your Leo work out. He sounds so shallow for Pisces.
Thank you for reading my story Lexus!
The worst part is that I sent him a birthday greetings text a few days after our last date and he didn't even have the decency to send me a "thank you" text. He ignored it.
He didn't deserve all the attention I gave him. That most definitely was a lesson learned. Sometimes unrequited love is meant to bring your weaknesses to the surface so you can heal them. It was a painful but healing experience. I needed to learn how to "love" myself more than I would love any man, so that I can bring my self-worth to the level where I can stand up for myself and kick to the curb any man who dares to disrespect me the way he did.
I acted like a doormat, but at least, it brought my self-worth to the point where I needed it to be!
Although I guess I could add some other things to the unrequited list... e.g. unrequited like, unrequited infatuation, unrequited delusional projection of stuff onto a person you barely know...
But love? Naw... It's rarely actual love, when it is unrequited. I'm not saying it never happens, but it's uncommon.The most typical scenario is one where the infatuated person doesn't actually *know* the loved one very well at all. It's like falling in love with an illusion, or with your own imagination. I believe Neptune plays a significant role in these relationships.
I met him properly when I was 15 at a public rave (party). He was a friend of one of my friends at the time. During the party, he got robbed by a group of lads and was punched too. Obviously, this hurt his ego/pride, but being the type of Aries Moon that I am, I tried to make him laugh and feel better.
He appreciated this and when we were going home, I asked for his number to check up on him and make sure he was ok. We ended up building a really good relationship, and I developed feelings for him. It wasn't helped by the fact that a number of my school friends soon found out who he was and started to build relations with him. I was jealous, because I felt like I had worked for the relationship. Invested time and got to know him properly while everyone else just joined in without doing anything!
Eventually, I told him how I felt in a drunken state and he said that we were really good friends and that was it. Obviously I was devastated, but he still wanted to continue the friendship. We used to meet up etc. and literally get on sooooooooooo well. We liked the same music and we were both rather witty. His love for music and my love of dance really bonded us together. He was literally my best male friend and I was his.
As the years progressed he met one of my friends and at the time, I encouraged him to date her because I didn't realise that things would change. I also didn't realise that I would be jealous. Basically, both things became apparent and we stopped being ok with each other. I went off to university and during those three years, we exchanged messages to the effect of 'I love you and miss you.' He broke up with his girlfriend, by this time my ex friend and things were ok.
Then I sabotaged myself by telling him that I liked him again, but then listing all of my concerns which were insecurities tbh (which obviously made him concerned) and then I panicked and things went downhill again. Since then, there have been many reconciliations and many fallouts. There have also been mixed message statements from him like 'I don't want to ruin our friendship' and his constant interest in my love life whenever we do speak - it's odd.
The type of person he is now... he is someone who appears to be able to live without me. He talks to all of these typically attractive girls and I just find him disloyal and fickle. It is sad that we never worked out, but I can see where my temperament and his hesitation ruined things.
I don't know if he ever had feelings for me genuinely, but he definitely made me feel like he didn't - even if it was just a cover up. Definitely an annoying situation and one that I've learned over the years to avoid in so many ways in the future.
quote:Originally posted by LexusVirgo:Ikja, I know how you feel I have Venus square Pluto in my natal unrequited love is a theme.Sounds to me though that you friend really does love you a lot he's been friends with you for ten years.. Maybe he just needs to get his head out of the sand and realize you always been there for him.
I haven't suffered that much in love though. In fact I wish I had had more love interests for the experience, but I simply never paid that much attention to it when I was a student. My first crush happened when I was around 8 or 9. Seriously. And I though he would be the ideal husband, I could totally picture it. However, I was a shy girl, with not many social skills and he was intelligent, flamboyant and extrovert. He couldn't go unnoticed everywhere he went so he naturally caught my attention. He seemed interested as well, but nothing ever happened for four years that we were together at school (not even a kiss). I was too shy to know how to handle the situation. However, for years he remained in me as a platonic love and in a positive light. Somehow he had been a good influence in my life, because he helped me be more self-confident.
However I've seen him recently. He has changed so much! Trying to love him now is like loving almost a different person. He still has the spark the that got me attracted to him, but I see more of his true nature now than before when I was infatuated.
And now for my second love interest, and this one wasn't as happy as the other. This is the angsty love that many teenagers go through (but I was older than a teenager when it happened). If I had to describe what it felt like, I would say it was a strongly karmic connection. In some ways it was good, when he was understanding because no other man had cared yet. Still we couldn't be together due to our situation (mainly his), but I think/I know it wouldn't really have worked if things had been different. I can't remain friends with this person, though I will always love him deeply. He taught me a lesson: that I should stand up for myself no matter what.
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